Victim? I think not.
Posted by sanityinjection on December 1, 2008
One of the more sordid news stories last week involved a couple that got caught having sex in the restroom at a college football game. In addition to the violation of public decency, the “couple” wasn’t really a couple at all – in fact, they didn’t even know each other. Worse yet, the woman is married.
Still, none of this would be blogworthy were it not for the recent revelation that the woman is now claiming she was somehow drugged in order to get her to engage in the above-mentioned conduct:
“I would never ever do that,” Feldman said. “My kids are my life. I go to church every Sunday.”
Um…methinks the lady doth protest too much. By all accounts, Mrs. Feldman had consumed a heavy amount of wine before the game – to the point that her husband suggested she stay home. Instead, they went to the game, she got up from her seat to use the restroom, and the rest is history. There was no indication from witnesses, police, or Mrs. Feldman herself at the time of her arrest that the activity was anything less than consensual, though I believe Mrs. Feldman when she says she was so blitzed she doesn’t remember it. As far as we can tell her “partner in crime” was blitzed also. So how come all of a sudden several days later he’s a predator and she’s an innocent churchgoing mom?
Isn’t it more likely that Mrs. Feldman, having been caught red-handed in the midst of a drunken extra-marital public sex romp, is grasping at straws to find some way to restore her marriage, let alone her reputation? So why not play the victim card? Never mind that alcohol, while lowering inhibitions, doesn’t make you do anything you don’t actually want to do. Never mind that there are women who really are the victims of sexual predators, whose stories Mrs. Feldman cheapens and smears with her attempt to co-opt the mantle of victimhood. Never mind that every false accusation of sexual assault ruins the life of the accused and endangers the well being of real future victims who will be that much less likely to be believed.
Instead of obviating her shame, I would argue that Mrs. Feldman has multiplied it with this disgraceful attempt to avoid taking responsibility for her own actions.